Controversy
You have probably read this blog post if you have been with a 20 feet radius of a computer in the last three days. Just in case you have not, go read it real quick, it is short and I will wait.
Great. Okay so what did you think?
This was posted by no less then seven of my friends yesterday on facebook, all with notes like “this mom is awesome!” and “this kid is so lucky!” And you know what? I disagree.
You obviously know that I feel strongly that any kind of violence or discrimination towards homosexuals ( or anyone) is wrong. You KNOW that I love people who are gay and that I am for gay rights. But, may I play the devil’s advocate for a moment? My problem with this is that the boy changed his mind, and said several times he did not want to go through with it. He had a real sense of self preservation. Is it sad that he had to? YES. Was it a valid concern? YES.
If he had never wavered, if he was 100% sure he wanted to be Daphne at his school program then I would understand better, but that is not the case. This kid changed his mind and the mom pushed him to do something he was uncomfortable with. So while this article has some great points, and some awesome one liners….I disagree with the mom. Not because she let her kid dress like a girl, but because she pushed him to do something that he was uncomfortable with. I could be wrong, I do not know this woman obviously, but this seems to be a case of her pushing her son to make a statement, kind of look how cool and accepting I am!
So would I let my son dress up like a female character for Halloween at a Christian preschool? No. I would not. Not even if he begged, pleaded, and honestly identified himself as a girl. I am sorry if that makes me sound cruel or homophobic–I consider myself to be neither- but it is a mothers first and primary purpose to protect our children, and while I realize that I can not do this forever, I think five is too young to have to stand up for a belief system. If the same scenario happened at seventeen, I would make the costume for him myself.
What do you think?
Bloggy what now?
Um. Hi Internet! Miss me? I actually missed you quite a bit–enough that I want to do NabloPoMo even though I certainly do not have time to participate.
Boy is it dusty around here. I really need to do some house cleaning…..update the blogroll, new banner, dead links, etc. Have you ever been in a house that was really cute but left empty for eight months? Things happen– leaks, loose boards, bugs.
Obviously my love for …. and — is still intact.
Wanna know what has been going on? Okay so here is the scoop. On April 5th I went in to have my Gallbladder removed. It was full of sludge ( no really, that is the real term for it!) from some meds I took this time last year! Anyway, so I was in surgery. It was eight AM. The Husband was sitting in the waiting room…..and gets a call. His whole department at work was dissolved. Effective immediately. He was freaked the hell out, obviously. I was suddenly a stay at home mom with an unemployed husband. Um. Panic!
The good news is that we were totally fine, better even. We did have to cancel our super awesome, yet super dorky vacation, but other than that our savings and his stipend got us through. He was out of work for exactly two months. The new job is doing exactly what he wants to do, what he has gone to school for! Speaking of school:
Yay!
The down side is that The Husband no longer works from home, but instead in Capital City, 45 minutes away. And he also is working waaaaay more hours for less money. But it kinda feels like we have no room to complain….he has a good job with good insurance for all of us. We still get to live in our cute little house, in our dream home town. In this economy–who could possibly complain about that?
The other development as far as employment goes is….I am working! Well, sorta. I so was not looking for a job, but one day got a call from the director of The Son’s preschool. They needed a preschool teacher in the 3yr old room….they loved me…..was I interested? Oh yeah, it includes free tuition, plus cold hard cash (more than you would expect even!). Uh, sure! Why not! It turns out that I love it. The kids are darling, I love my co-teacher, the school is wonderful….really it is perfect. I only work Tuesdays and Thursdays, and only during the times when The Son is already there, right down the hall from me. Awesome.
I am also really turning this part time photography thing into a real business, I do about three shoots a week, and that is more than enough! It is a joy to do, and sometimes I feel shocked that people actually give me money to do something I love.
The Son is good, better than good even, he is great! Four! When the hell did that happen? He is still all about outer space, and collected a fine haul of candy last night as an astronaut.
Okay, there is lots more to fill you in on…..tomorrow we learn more about those people who don’t live here at Huckablog World Headquarters!
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Easter 2010, photo by JHJ
I keep writing posts and deleting them because I am not sure what I want to say. How much information do I want to share? How much do you want to know? Is anyone still reading or is this the ultimate exercise in futility?
Lets start with a review. Blog started in December of 2007 with me trying to force myself into a job that I knew was not right for me. March 2008, I gave it up and with the help of a new job for The Husband the decision was made for me to be a stay at home mom. I loved it but was let’s face it… lonely. I blogged to get my words out. To connect with long lost friends and family members….and it helped. Fall 2008 I joined a playgroup and MOPS. I make friends who I can talk to without feeling like I am boring them with stories of my kid, my job. I become involved. I become very involved, I find my self forcing a blog that is nice to rant on or post cute pictures….but has already lost some of the luster I was aiming for. This problem gets worse. January 2010. I contemplate pulling the plug, but don’t because I see in the future the need for updates, and maybe an anonymous support system to help with, gasp, post partum depression. I also happen to be weaning off of my Lexapro and taking my folic acid for the same reasons. I have nasty withdrawal symptoms and explain my lack of blogging. You respond with support. Thanks.
April 2010, I have surgery! Organs get pulled out through my belly button. I am fine, I am recovering, I will be fine. But something……has come up. Something I don’t really feel like I need to advertise because my family does deserve privacy. The State of our Union is this: Shaken but Strong. I love my husband and he loves me and our marriage is a strong one. All three of us are healthy and happy. There will not be a huckababy for a long time, and that is fine too. We have a house, and two cars, and plenty to eat. We will be fine.
My photography business is booming and I spend my spare minutes editing photos instead of blogging, and I feel discouraged when I do think about blogging, because all of my closest blog buddies have let their blogs die….or they are barely hanging on. I guess I am building to this. Love you. Really I do. But I am taking away all feelings of guilt for not blogging, I started it, and I can end it. I will not give up the domain, but it may be awhile before you see me again. So..later.
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